What is rejection?
- Rejection includes feelings, thoughts, mindsets of being unloved and unwanted.
Why are we rejected?
- We live in a world where we often face rejection on a constant and consistent basis. Not only are we rejected on the basis of gender, complexion, weight, intelligence, street smartness, etc., etc., but also added to all these we have the additional burden of being rejected because we believe in Christ.
- We should always understand that the enemy does not like man and is bent on the destruction of mankind as a whole, but along with that he has a special dislike towards God’s people. He tries his best to make us believe his lies.
- Rejection starts from the womb. In fact, the child is in the most vulnerable state when it is in the womb. The child is very impressionable at this age. Many of us have a deep sense of shame too. We are ashamed of ourselves because our mothers were ashamed of being pregnant too soon. Whatever the mother feels directly affects the baby. Some of our parents rejected our sex. As a result some children tend to struggle with homosexual tendencies.
Signs and symptoms of a person suffering from severe rejection:
- The spirit of rejection makes us feel and believe strongly that we are unwanted and generally people who have strong roots of rejection equate everything to rejection. They equate correction, rebuke or even advice to rejection. Such people are easily offended. Everything and anything offends them. As a result, they get hurt very easily and carry it along without dealing with it because many of us do not regard it as sin.
- People who suffer from a spirit of rejection feel rejected even when no one is rejecting them. They sometimes could struggle with the following:
- Thoughts of suicide.
- Low self-esteem.
- The way we perceive ourselves can leave us either accepted or self-rejected, for example: three children in a home, each feel less loved than the other.
- Usually a person suffering from severe rejection ends up being very selfish. The only person they can think about is themselves.
- Every human being has various needs at various stages. Each stage and age has different needs. Whatever the need, the underlying factor is love. We all thirst for love and acceptance at every stage of our life. We satisfy this thirst by making our own gods. Today, let us decide to renounce all our gods, whom we turn to when we need love, and turn to Jesus who alone can give us living waters. So, we ask the Holy Spirit to meet our unmet needs of love and acceptance. We invite Him into our past and ask Him to quench our thirst. We ought to do this on a daily basis too.
- Almost all of us think that feelings and thoughts of rejection are not sinful. We do not see the danger nor the wickedness of such thoughts. Rejection is a great lie against God and against the word that says that God is love. Only a loving God could have and would have created us. Only He died on the cross for us. So the great thing is that You have a God, a friend, who died for you on the cross. Know that the Master of this Universe is your friend. He is your exceedingly great reward. What more can we ask for. We should be walking around like real kings.
- If we think that we have experienced rejection in the womb, then we should also know that in the sovereignty of God, there are no mistakes, no unplanned children. “God chose us in Christ Jesus before the foundations of the world” (Ephesians 1:4).
- Start listening to God’s opinion of you, and let Him reprogram you until His loving estimate of you becomes a part of your life, right down to your innermost feelings. Such work is a continuous part of your life, right down to your innermost feelings.
- Ask God to write down these truths into your spirit right now. (Lead the group to place their bibles on their chest and with their eyes closed, they could say the following out aloud after somebody):
- I am valuable. I am someone whom God values so highly as to give the life of His own dear Son to redeem me (Romans 5:7-11).
- I am a child of God. I am a child of God not born of natural decent, nor of human decision or a husband’s will, but born of God (John 1:13).
- I am owned. He has anointed me and put His seal of ownership on me.
- I am loved. “I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with loving-kindness (Jeremiah 31:3).
- God rejoices over you. “…He will take great delight in you, He will quiet you with His love, He will rejoice over you with singing” (Zephaniah 3:17).
- The old is gone. “If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come (2 Corinthians 5:17).
- The following can also declared by the group. “I am special. God created me for Himself and I thank Him for this spirit, mind and body He has given me. I accept them as a gift and I repent for all my wrong attitudes towards myself. I forgive every person who has said or done things that has made me reject myself. Dedicate my life afresh to the one who has made me and I rejoice in His goodness.”
- Last, but not the least, we have to forgive those who have hurt us and marred us so badly.
This post is a part of a series of posts regarding Inner Healing. Click here to access the Introduction to Inner Healing and the entire list of topics in the Inner Healing series.