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Attitude Problem or Defense Mechanism?

February 24th, 2016

Don’t you hate it when you have to deal with those people with attitude problems? I sure do. With some, it’s difficult to be in the same room with them.

But what is an attitude problem? I can easily recognize the attitude defects in others, and they see clearly through me and notice the many “cracks” in my attitude too.
So in effect, whoever has an attitude different from me has an attitude problem. Everyone has defects that are like “cracks” that everyone else can see.
We have all experienced pain in our past. Under the surface, these are methods we use to try to protect ourselves from further pain. We use words that push people away. Through our emotions and attitudes, we say that we are no less than anyone else.
We long to be accepted for who we are. It’s not that we don’t want to be changed — we want to be changed by God. But we want to be accepted as we are. Once we are accepted in our current state, we feel that the acceptance is genuine and unconditional. Then, gradually, God can change us.
Everything else appears as rejection. The pain of rejection is too intense for anyone to bear. So we put up these defense mechanisms that are intended to protect our hearts from further pain and agony.
So what about those people with attitude problems? And those people with words that are too sharp to get close to? Just forgive, and continue to forgive. Believe that these are people for whom Jesus died. He has a plan for them, and is working on them. They are in a process of transformation into the image of Christ, God’s Son.
And I the same.
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Shame as Suffering for the Gospel

February 17th, 2016

“Therefore do not be ashamed of the testimony of our Lord, nor of me His prisoner, but share with me in the sufferings for the gospel according to the power of God (2 Tim 1:8 NKJV).

Shame is defined as a painful feeling of humiliation or distress caused by the consciousness of wrong or foolish behavior. When we connect this word and the Gospel, it is an interesting mix. According to the definition, wrong or foolish behavior usually leads to shame.
But how do we see sharing the gospel as wrong or foolish behavior? Although there is nothing inherently wrong or foolish with sharing the gospel, we may experience shame.
This shame may come from fear of ridicule and humiliation by others. So Paul is instructing Timothy to deal with his fear that leads to shame, which may have kept him from boldly sharing the gospel.
After dealing with shame, Timothy is asked to share in the sufferings for the gospel. Sharing implies solidarity and oneness. Paul seems to be taking the idea of shame and directly linking it with the reality of sharing in the sufferings of Christ.
Paul experienced beatings, ridicule, and various other abuses because of the gospel he preached. He related all these as sharing in the sufferings of Christ.
But here in 2 Timothy, experiencing shame is described as sharing in the sufferings of Christ.
Next time you feel ashamed of telling others about your faith in Jesus, think of yourself as a co-sufferer with Jesus. What a glorious way to share and to suffer.
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How to Use Religion to Get Rich

February 10th, 2016

Religion does make a person very rich, if he is satisfied with what he has. (1 Tim 6:6 GNB)

We can talk eloquently about contentment, but at the end of the day, we want more. I like the expression in the Good News Bible: “Well, religion does make a person very rich, if he is satisfied with what he has” (1 Tim 6:6 GNB).
Handling the lack of contentment is one of the greatest challenges of life. Paul gives three pointers for learning contentment: a reasoning, basic requirements, and a warning.
The reasoning for contentment is that “We brought nothing into this world, and it is certain we carry nothing out” (1 Tim 6:7 NKJV). At the end of our lives, when our net worth is calculated, money will not be a criteria.
The basic requirements for us in this life is to have food and clothing. When we learn to be content with those basic requirements, we can say that one is truly wealthy.
Paul also gives a clear warning to those who desire to be rich. Such a desire simply lures a person into numerous traps that ensnare and ultimately destroy the person.
“But godliness with contentment is great gain.” Contentment will completely change you. You will never be the same. It will be great gain, you will be wealthy.
Who are the truly rich people? The godly ones who are satisfied with what they have. So religion is a great way to become wealthy – for those who are satisfied with what they have.
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Rebuke Without Rebuking

February 3rd, 2016

Correction and rebuke can be quite a difficult task for leaders. It’s often like walking on eggshells. We don’t like to do it, but it is one of those unavoidable things we must do. But unfortunately, many leaders completely avoid this part of their leadership for fear of conflict and opposition.

But how can we handle it without hurting feelings and without broken relationships? This is a difficult task, but that’s why we are here as leaders. This difficult and important task has been assigned to us.
When Paul gave some leadership advice to Timothy, these were his words: “Do not rebuke an older man but encourage him as you would a father, younger men as brothers, older women as mothers, younger women as sisters, all in purity” (1 Tim 5:1-2 ESV).
Two aspects are evident here; encouragement and relationships. Paul wanted Timothy to prefer encouragement over rebuke, and relationships over hierarchy.
When we lead or bring correction based on our emotional response, we tend to “rebuke” the persons involved. But if we can deal with the individuals based on relationships, we can use encouraging words.
If we see our task from a hierarchical perspective, we may end up with increased conflict. But if we deal within a relational context, the results are amazing.
Paul was giving some important advice to Timothy, a young leader in the church. He instructed Timothy to treat older men as fathers, younger men as brothers, older women as mothers, and younger women as sisters. Paul intended a relational approach to discipline and leadership.
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Do the Talk and Talk The Doing

January 27th, 2016

It is not easy to measure integrity. But I believe Paul’s words to Timothy give us a clue to measure our own integrity. “Keep a close watch on yourself and on your teaching . . . “ (2 Tim 4:16 NLT).

Maybe we can use it like a thermostat for ourselves. These two aspects can be viewed as two parts of the same entity.
First, we need integrity in our actions. How we live must match our words. Of course, this assumes that we speak according to our values.
If we live according to our words, and our words are in line with our values, then our life will be in line with our values.
Second, we need integrity in our words. Many thoughts may come to our mind. We will hear a variety of ideas from different people we value. But what is consistent with our values? What is in line with the scriptures?
Popular opinion may not be in line with your values. The “gatekeepers” may have thoughts that are different from your values. Stay with what you value regardless of the cost. Acceptance and popularity are illusions fabricated to satisfy the needs of our insecurity.
We need a life of integrity backed up with words consistent with our values.
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Permanently Broken

January 20th, 2016

What if things don’t get better? What if the pain, sickness, and brokenness you face is permanent? Hope is good, but what if the hope you have just doesn’t pan out?

It is good to encourage people to hold on in the midst of their struggles. Continue to be faithful in what you do in spite of the difficult circumstances you are in. Our hope is that one day, things will turn around for the good.
For some people, the only healing they’ll receive for their bodies is at the time of resurrection. Resurrected bodies will be free of sickness and pain.
Whatever struggles you face, there is a longing to be free from that pain. There is always that thought that maybe one day, the agony will go away. So we continue to pray for healing, and ultimately desire wholeness in every area of our lives.
Yet throughout the Bible, there are people who went through life never having received what they longed for. Abraham never reached his “destination” during his life. Moses missed the promised land. Although Job got back more than what he lost, his children were no more.
What if our pain is permanent? What if your loss is never to be recovered? I remember the words of Job: “Though he slay me, yet will I trust him.”
Maybe it’s the end of your hope. Some things may never change. Maybe it’s the end of your life as you had wished it to be, with all its success and grandeur.
Jesus asked the Father to take away the “cup” of torture and agonizing death, but he submitted himself to the Father’s will. Although the pain was too much to bear, he loved his Father more than his desire to be free. And of course, He loved us too much to give up.
I am learning a new lesson. It’s an old one, and I’ve known it all along, but it is finally getting into my heart. This life is temporary. This is just “practice” for eternity with God. The fullness and true reality will come then. Today is the day to learn to be in relationship with God and to trust Jesus.
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Everyone Gets to Play, But . . .

January 13th, 2016

We consider it an important value that everyone gets to play, but leadership is limited. They need to be tested first. Active involvement is open to all of God’s children. We are not to limit anyone because of their situation in life.

Once people are involved, they need to prove themselves faithful. When tasks are assigned, we observe their commitment to the task. Are they faithful? Are they committed?
Paul clearly expressed this important principle to Timothy. “And let them also be tested first; then let them serve as deacons if they prove themselves blameless” (1 Tim 3:10).
Salvation is open to all people as God wants a personal relationship with everyone. Ministry involvement is open to all of God’s children without putting any limitations on people. But Leadership in the church is limited only to those who have proven themselves faithful to the tasks assigned to them. Likewise, they need to be people of character in their personal lives, family, and in society.
People’s reputation in the society is vital as the community sees the church through the people of the church, especially its leaders. So everyone gets to play, but church leadership is limited to the faithful.
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Pray for Peace, Pray for Leaders

January 6th, 2016

Leaders are the key to have a peaceful and dignified society. As the leaders are, so are the rest of the people.

In every society, leaders are criticized and stereotyped as corrupt and power-hungry. In 1 Timothy 2:1-7, we are encouraged to pray for the leaders of our society.
Everyone desires a peaceful and dignified life. Paul says the way to get there is through prayer. When we pray for our leaders, God is pleased with our prayers.
But the ultimate key to that prayer is that our leaders may come to know Jesus. This is because Jesus is the one mediator between the true God and people.
When leaders have a genuine relationship with Jesus, the society can enjoy peace and live a dignified life. These qualities come as a result of having leaders who are committed to Christ and committed to governing with biblical values.
So, what about our complaints regarding the nation? Yes, they may be valid and accurate, but the instruction for us is to pray. Our prayers will transform them, and transformed leaders will transform our society.
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One Look is All it Took

December 28th, 2015

I didn’t do anything special. I simply looked His way. One look was all it took, and He was so gracious to me and filled me with faith and poured out his love to me.

This is clearly unique to the Christian faith, that our faith is based on God’s grace to us. It wasn’t a great set of sacrificial deeds on our part, but entirely on the grace of God.
The thief of the cross simply looked at Jesus and said “remember me.” Those words of desire was sufficient to Jesus for him to be accepted into his kingdom. Jesus clearly taught through parables that this acceptance was entirely God’s prerogative, and not based on our works or abilities.
As if that was not enough, he filled us with faith and love. Because of our sinful and broken condition, we don’t even have the ability to have faith in Him. He graciously provides that too, the faith to keep believing and trusting in Him.
Then, to top all of that of, he gives us his love. Of course, it was love that prompted the Father to send His Son to die for us in the first place. But now, he fills us with that kind of love. His kind.
So just as we did in the beginning, let’s keep looking in his direction…
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How to Know if You Will Endure

December 21st, 2015

    For a long time now, I have been on a quest to “move” people. The aim has been to move people towards God, and towards a better life.

    Normally this should be an easy task. Who wouldn’t want a better life and a better future? Unfortunately, many are not able to stay focused on a life set in that direction. People want the end result, but they waver in their commitment and focus.
    Paul the apostle wanted people in the Thessalonian church to remain faithful to the call of God on their lives. Here is what he said to them: “And we have confidence in the Lord about you, that you are doing and will do the things that we command. May the Lord direct your hearts to the love of God and to the steadfastness [patient endurance – NLT] of Christ” (2 Thes 3:4,5 ESV).
    Since Jesus patiently endured so many things in his life, we know that we can too. We are being formed into the likeness of Jesus. That is why Paul’s confidence was “in the Lord,” about them. He had confidence that they would endure, because of Jesus.
    So, will you make it in the Christian walk? Will you be fruitful? Paul would be confident in Christ about you — that you will endure.
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